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Saturday, July 30, 2005

My THIRD post :)

"When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be annulled."

Once a virgin girl came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said that her father had married her to a man against her wishes. The Prophet gave her the right to repudiate the marriage.

Divorced women are also given freedom to contract a second marriage.

22 comments:

Salted-Caramel said...

"to contract another marriage"..

What does that mean?

samboose said...

I think if you translate "contract" meaning عقد
So I guess in that context it means given the freedom to remarry?

Just trying to make an educated guess.

vincent said...

on that same story that the woman who dislikes the man gave him el mahhar + the money that he paid on her ella el presents she can keep them.
o yosamma shar3an " Khal3 ".

PeTiTa said...

Thats true deen il yisir walaysa il 3osir..we studied this in religion class 11th grade itha wa7da mi6alqa then she get married again without her fathers permission lana shes not a virgin

Bloo said...

the difference between a never before married girl, and a once married girl.. is that the first her father/closest memeber can say the 'i do' for her.. where as the second, she gets to say it. in both accounts, a woman MUST have her family's approval. she won't be 'contracting' herself single handedly.

thats to clarify your point. now to bring it a bit further, the divrced/widowed women in islam -and even prior to islam- were not labeled that much of an outcast as the case now.. such things happened regularly and they always can remarry once or twice.. or how ever they wish.

samboose said...

Vintage I think "shar3an" the sheikh is supposed to ask the woman who's her "wakeel" in most cases the father. he's supposed to speak on her behalf. It's mostly in the Gulf that they talk the father's word before making sure he has the daughters consent.

Like you always see in Egypt the "Ma'azoon" as they call it first going to the girl making sure the father's consulted her first.

I know that also depending on the sect the marriage ceremony (milcha) differs.

Bloo said...

samboose, forget about egyptian stereotypes.. but i'm pretty sure the difference between al-thayeb wl bkr is the 'HOW' in which the 'yes/no' is taken into account.

of course, i'm speaking of a sect. that ra1 understands :D

samboose said...

Vintage, the thing i've realized that most people are starting to take their own innitiative. Sure the basics are there but still traditions sometime over-rule.

I can never have imagined getting married without being asked. I wanted to have the right to say "I do" and I did;)

Spontaneousnessity said...

yeah!? didn't know that!

samboose said...

:)

Ra-1 said...

sambouse ... good guess :p

Ra-1 said...

oh u are married :)

Bloo said...

samboose. culture overrides here than religion.. it is when u reach ur climax-with religion-soul relation that culture is insignificant.. such as the case with converts from western world.. as they dont have such thing as 3adat o taqaleed.
my 3adat o taqaleed do not ever say i be married without me knowing.. but i do know of cases in my cousins where they got married without them approving initially.. bas ba3dain they got fab. results:D so u never know what ba6eekha ur getting ur self into.

now im talking about ba6eekh in a time of summer.. ya waily.

Judy Abbott said...

ako shay chithy hal wagt?

iDip said...

Bodas de Sangreعرس الدم

by
Federico Garcia Lorca

Molecule said...

A beautiful artist brutally murdered,personifying the conflict between good and evil.

samboose said...

ra-1 yup married, almost 4 years now.... still feel single though..he he he!!!

Vintage, I agree 3adat o taqaleed. It's also like the 3abaya, burge3 and nikab. Some might not do it for it's religious connotation as much as the "traditions" of the family/culture.

Marriage in all cases is a luck of the draw. I know people who married for love that are miserable and others are on cloud 9. Also goes the same for arranged and traditional marraiges. Like you said ba6eekha. That's what they call "Naseeb"

Ra-1 said...

samboose ...
بالنسبة للفقرة الأخيرة
صح لسانج :)

Devilish said...

I think if women stood up to their rights as given by our religion a lot of the outdated cultural norms can be put to a halt. When I discuss this with some women they say, “who would dare stand against their parents wishes !” Well ! Someone will have to pay the price of freedom !

It’s not that we guys got total freedom as well, as per the usual myth ! I know some who got kicked out of their parents house coz they didnt agree on his desired wife !

Another was given a 24hours notice for marriage ! He couldn’t stand against his father wishes ! Though he later on divorced the gal ! (the couple were only verbally married, they didn’t even meet up)

Devilish said...

btw, am I the only one who noticed a full post of Sarah which VANISHED !

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