Saturday, July 23, 2005

The 'C's

usually men ask "What women want?"
Instead I want to ask them,
what men think women want ???
"SOME" Men work hard in order to get women to want them. At the end of the day, they fail to question - do women want them or what they have??
Some, or should I say "many" women are only after the Materialistic 'C's:
  • Cash
  • Car
  • Credit-Card
  • Career

While all these are important in some ways, today people forget what's more important, The Real 'C's:

  • Class
  • Character
  • Consistency
  • Compatibility
  • Chemistry.

If a woman loves you for what you are, not for what you have, she'll stay with you through thick and thin. A lot of men fail to realise that, I think.

Any opinions, gentlemen and ladies?


Purgatory said...

I never ask that question, nor do I care what they want.

"They work hard in order to get women to want them." - shakoo feeha? she works she can earn money to get what she wants.

"Class" - thats a loaded word.

"If a woman loves you for what you are, not for what you have, she'll stay with you through thick and thin." - which dream world are you living in?

ok I commented.

Papillona ® said...

Thank you Purg bas shfeek m3assib? wala yhemmik aghayerha asaweeha "some" men

Papillona ® said...

and YESSSS once a woman loves you she will be with you no matter what :) in this world my dear

Salted-Caramel said...

"shakoo feeha? she works she can earn money to get what she wants".

I hope not all guys say this. Actually, am sure not all! Cuz if this is the case, I don't need a man! I'd rather stay at my parents house (Allah y5aleehom lee inshalah) where they can get me what I want.

Salted-Caramel said...

I'm gonna be realistic here. I wouldn't want a man who has all the "real c's" and lacks the "materialistic c's". Becuz, honestly speaking, if he has all the "real c's" that's GREAT, really.. but then what? How are we supposed to live with that? How can we afford to build a house and family together? And sure I'll be working and getting paid, but I DO NOT want to end up like those families with the woman ta9rif 3ala ilrayal! NO!

Same goes with a man who has all the "materialistic C's" and lacks the "real c's". I can never live with a guy that's not compatible with me or has no character, etc.

In conclusion, I believe that there must be some sort of compromise. The guy must have a little of both (or everything, even better :P). Otherwise, like I said in my previous comment, ag3ad ib bayt ahali a7san. And am sure they would agree on that.

Spontaneousnessity said...

madri! I guess am a much simpler person! I never ask what he has, or try to find that out, it's how he handles a situation or how he analysis things .. I never liked a guy then disliked him cause he had a crappy car, or the other way around, how far can “shallownessity” go?!

Equalizer said...

HYPOCRISY. Ok time has changed. What is is really important in a man really depends on what is needed. What is needed is defined by the time we live in, traditions, culture and economic needs. In the past, our grandparents used to have limited contact, as the man used to work very hard to earn a living and the woman would be staying home taking care of things. Today, interaction is very important because time has changed, and spending time with your spouse is a rule for survival. So where is the hypocrisy? As women tend to be freed up from their "traditional" roles as called for by women rights activist, isint it natural that taking up some of the mens responsibility brings about "equality"? Unfortunately, what is happening mostly is the man is still responsible for paying all the bills, settling the house loan, and taking care of all the "man" duties. In return what does he get? An OK house at the most as his wife is busy somewhere else. Balance? not really, just another cause for a failed marriage. Bottomline, and I know I might have departed from the subject, that if women are really making their own money and financially independent, then they should focus on the "real" C's.

Sloth said...

ok i am sorry but i don't see a point in putting guidlines to what a man should or shouldn't have..
if you're to find the right one .. you will , regardless .. just let it be and don't occupy urselves with such matters.. enjoy being single ;)

Equalizer said...

I feel like writing a book called "The Supermarket" about relationships in modern times, and how people select their partners, through analogies of buying "vegetables" to choosing the right "detergent".

Purgatory said...

Sarah, such posts make me boil.

Papillona ® said...

SC, ee wallah a7san

Sponta, cute!! erm, really?

Don't blame women, it's the society, the culture and also religion that says "alrejal qawamoon 3ala il nesaa' bima yonfiqoon".

I know many women who share all responsibilities and expenses with their husbands.
you gave us an example that the husband is incharge of everything while the wife is busy somewhere else, it could be true. but again I say this is only an example.
thank you for sharing your openion :)

Papillona ® said...

Sloth. I couldn't agree more :)

equalizer, that sounds like a great idea ;)

purg. relaaax baby

waterlilie said...

I agree, but honey are you sure that girls in our society see things the way we do? I mean good for the man that finds me and you, I am extreemly easy to please, yet Im extreemly picky choosing a mate, because all they care to potray are the first patch of Cs that you stated.

Shopaholic Q8eya said...

For some reason, I don't like this post!!

W. said...

Actually, I'd like a combo of both C groups

In my opinion, those materialistic things are the fruit of that man's ambitions.. I simply cannot be with someone who is not ambition..noway.. So the basic C in that group is Career, where if he succeeded he will earn the rest of the Cs (which is natural in my opinion)

As for the other Cs, as far as class is concerned, it's either there, or not.. so for those who have no class,, don't even bother because you won't ever "get" it. The rest are alright I suppose.

I don't think love is enough to remain with a man thru thick and thin.. I feel that respect is a stronger binding for a couple.. I donno... to me,, I find it much easier to walk out on someone I love, than someone I highly respect...

PeTiTa said...

I agree with salted caramel you have to have a bit of both, you can't live with one and not the other. Also women that work, their salary is totally for them o il rayal mala 7ag ya5ith mina wala filis o ohwa bes ili mafroth ya9rif 3ala il bait ihya tigdar itsawi ili tabe ib ma3ash'ha wiflos'ha

W. said...

ambitious not ambition.. sorry lol

Papillona ® said...

waterlilie I'm very picky as well :)

shopa :(

W. very realistic ;)

M. :)

Spontaneousnessity said...

shili really! plz don't say the car thing!

Papillona ® said...

sponta, not only the car but the lack of the materialistic Cs could change a girls mind about getting involved with this guy

Flamingoliya said...

many women now are meterialistic. their parents would ask "how much do you own in the bank" and judge him by that.

that's is the sad truth.

Papillona ® said...

Flam. true, and how much would you pay? (mahar)

Flamingoliya said...

me? pay mahar? laaaish?

Papillona ® said...

lol FLAM! not you, I meant one of the questions parents uzually ask. Very insulting sometimes

Flamingoliya said...

oh ok :P

Devilish said...

ummmmm someone who respects them, listen to them, admire them, care for them, knows what she wants before she asks, full attention, converse back to her..etc…ummmm though what I just mentioned might not be applicable to all women, they r all different ! Some of them r very materialistic as some already mentioned over here ! ummmmmm I’d be looking for someone who I can mentally connect with, n with a beautiful soul, sometimes the exterior beauty doesn’t match the inner beauty, that’s when I go Next !!

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